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It makes me wonder why this girl is fighting so hard to keep this baby away from this guy?
By The ODea Family | September 11, 2007
The following is yet another response to a question asked in the guest book of babyselling.com This question was before in the same wording, but it always came back to the same ip addresses.
This time it did not - so we chose to address it.
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I have hard copies of where I got these quotes from in case you think I’m making anything up.
This is a myspace comment Ashley’s mother wrote to Ashley’s older brother. This kinda tells you where her head’s at.
“Jason, I just want everyone to know how proud I am of you and the man you have become. I love you and I am so happy that you have convictions and you stand uo for them. You are a great son, and a good brother and you are going to make a wonderful husband and father when that time comes! And you will do it in the proper order.”
Proper order, how sad for the child who shows up ahead of time, but read on…
The following are quotes from Ashleys brother to Cody:
“You are pretty lucky that I am not there right now, that’s all I have to say about that. You are in no shape to be raising a child and neither is she. You got a job with enough income to have a baby? Do you even know how expensive it is?”
“Look man, I had a scare with a girl once as well, I am still not even sure if it’s mine or not. But, I am just letting it be cause that’s what she wants and we agreed that she won’t come after me later if she finds out it’s mine. Really you should take a step back and see if you are able to raise a child.”
“So you mean to tell me, that when you slept with my sister you intended on having a baby??? I think you are full of shit and it was an accident. Yes it is a gift from God I agree with that. But I know that my sister is not ready to have a child and like I said before I don’t think that you are either. In the best interest of the child, adoption into a loving family makes perfect sense where she can have a father and a mother together in a family to take care of her. Ashley and I know what it is like to not have a father as well, my parents divorced when we were very young. I know what you are feeling but it’s not heathly to raise a child when one parent wants nothing to do with the other. Excess drama that’s not even worth it. For the sake of this child, walk away man, just let it be. I feel that you are not ready for a child.”
This is a very Mormon family with strong Mormon beliefs. This is also a family who by their own admission did not do things in the ‘proper order’ yet are hell bent on making sure they do it that way now. It appears to me children in this family who are born ‘out of order’ aren’t included in the family fold.
The law of the land is not to be taken into our hands because we think we know best, especially when it comes to parental rights. The law is the law.
The Olea family has made it quite clear they decided based on what they feel is ‘proper’. I’m sorry, but the law does not give them that right.
Ashley and Cody made this baby, this was no immaculate conception. Cody is the father whether the Olea family likes it or not.
Ashley has signed away her rights, and the Adoption Center of Choice has custody of Cody’s child, and it is with them we battle, not the Olea family. They’ve done what they have done.
Does this give you clearer insight? Perhaps I can post the comment Cody made to Jason that may help you even further try and get some more insight.
“Im sorry you believe what you do but i dont feel i need to defend myself, your sister and i both know the truth and that is all that matters. You explained how you have been through a similar situation and the thing that stuck out to me was how you described it as a “scare”. To me this is not a scare but a gift from God. I have wanted to be a father my whole life and for reasons unknown to me, Ashley wants me to have nothing to do with this little girl. I respect the decision you made in your life with your situatiion but there is no way i will ever let your sister give our kid up for adoption or leave me out of her life. It is a right I have as the father. My father decided not be an active part in my life and I grew up without him. It has hurt me my whole life and I promised myself that I would never put a kid through that. My daughter will not go through the hurt I did, it’s a simple as that for me Jason.”
I can post the letters Laura, Ashley’s mother wrote to Cody and myself trying to convince him to walk away and how the baby needs to be in a home with two parents, but I’m hoping you get the point.
I hope I’ve properly addressed your concerns.
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