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My family is not posting on your sorry website.
By The ODea Family | September 20, 2007
I’m sure people wonder (and rightfully so) what exactly is the other side of the story. I want to share with you what we have been going thru that no one sees but us. This will give you a further insight into the other family, how they act when they think no one knows it’s them, and why this precious baby was hidden and taken from Cody. What I’m posting is only a small part of emails and postings to us from this family, but enough to give you some insight.
We have not shared most of this information because we felt up to this point, it served no purpose. We are doing so now because we just recently we received yet another email from Laura Divine (after numerous times telling her we would appreciate no personal contact from her, her family or friends) threatening us with her plans to slander Cody. We feel at this point, we need to go public with their correspondence so those following this case can see who we’re dealing with. We have hard copies of all that is quoted below, so even if my files were wiped out, I have them backed up and sent to others for safekeeping.
We have been harassed at every turn, Ashley and her mother has tried to blackmail us for one picture of Cody’s child, my grandchild. Laura came out in another blog stating her family enjoys an open-adoption, and has been involved in the child’s life all this time, and they are close to the people they handed this precious baby over to. All the while, Cody and his family has been pushed completely out.
On the babyselling websites, when some one posts, their IP number is recorded. When admin receives an email, the IP number is recorded. The below is part of a letter Laura Divine (Ashley Olea’s mother) wrote to us on Sept. 11, 2007. If you notice, it shows the IP number is: 69.144.224.158
I’ve given you a ‘taste’ of the letter. This letter was sent to myself and Shannon O’Dea from Laura Divine. What is said to us behind the scenes is totally different than the image this family presents publicly.
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Received: from [69.144.224.158] by web53405.mail.re2.yahoo.com via HTTP; Tue, 11 Sep 2007 17:29:25 PDT
Date: Tue, 11 Sep 2007 17:29:25 -0700 (PDT)
From: Laura Divine < Email address retracted>
Subject: MY FAMILY IS NOT POSTING ON YOUR SORRY WEBSITE
To: admin@babyselling.com
“You all are really pathetic and I feel sorry for you.
You know NOTHING about my family. Continue to make
your snide little comments. It just shows how
pathetic and sad you really are. Keep grasping at
those straws. You are not going to win.
The judge is going to rule against you, and you are
continuing to destroy whatever chance you may have had
of ever being a part of my granddaughter’s life.”
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In the babyselling guestbook and blog, we get nasty comments with different names, such as the comment below by ‘Tammy’. Tammy is not Tammy. We don’t post these comments because we know where they’re coming from and they are nothing but taunting and mean-spirited.
If you look at the IP number, you will see it is the same IP number as the IP from the email from Laura Divine. So there is no Tammy, it is coming from the Divine household.
Name: Tammy | E-mail: tammyw@aol.com | IP: 69.144.224.158
Well, your little rally didn’t work did it?
The judge ruled against you…and so will the court of appeals.
Perhaps you should start thinking about how to kiss the mother’s ass to let you have some kind of contact with the child.
So glad the judge follwed the LAW and didn’t let untruths sway him agaisnt the most important thing, the well being of this child and allowing her to stay with her family.
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Author : Tammy (IP: 69.144.224.158 ,
host-69-144-224-158.bfl-wy.client.bresnan.net)
What up now Beyotch? YOU LOST!!!!!
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youallsuck@yahoo.com
Boo hoo….cry me a river. When this court case is finished and you lose I am going to laugh my ASS! off. Losers
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Taken from a letter from Laura, Ashley’s mother to Cody July 27, 2006
“All we ever heard from you or your mother was you were not signing away your rights. Why should your rights supercede that of this child, or Ashley’s for that matter? Ashley put the best interests of this baby first and foremost, never her own. That does not constitute “not wanting this baby” as you and your family have alluded to over and over. Can you truely say that you are thinking ONLY of this baby’s best interest? Or are your motives purely selfish? All we hear is “me, my, ours.” All Ashely is saying is “the baby, the child, what is best for her”
“Don’t you understand, that even if she chose to keep the baby, she would have not called you and told you when the baby was born? The only way you would have known was when the state came after you for child support.”
“Ashley accepts the consequences of her actions at that time in her life. You have to realize that was not the true Ashley. She got mixed up in the wrong crowd, away from home for the first time and let herself beled away from the way she was raised. She has tried to turn what could be a very sad situation(single mother on welfare, birth father possibly making shild support payment and MAYBE getting court supervised visitation) into a positive. Achild being raised in a stable and loving home with a father and mother who love each other and planned for a child,able to support it and reay to parent. That is not wrong.
You have to know that I feel for what you are going through. You are trying to do the right thing, as you stated to my son, the thing that your own father didn’t. Can you at least look at this from outside your own wants and see that the best thing is to let this child be raised by her parents.
Not to be crude Cody, but just because you ejaculated, does not mean you should raise this baby. Biological parenting isn’t always the best. You look around all over and see natural parents who should not be parents. I am not saying that is true about you, but yopu have to concede that adoption is not a bad thing. Adoptive children are so wanted, and so loved and so waited for and the parents are ready for a child to come to the. It isn’t just an accident of conception. They don’t have that luxury.
Perhaps God allowed this baby to be conceived for that very reason. Think of all the times that sex takes place and there isn’t a child conceived.
This adoption was legal,and your parental rights were terminated along with Ashley’s. AS told to your sister and mother, you want to know where the child is. All that is known is that she is with her parents, where she belongs.”
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Taken from a letter from Laura, Ashley’s mother to myself July, 27, 2006
“Melinda
Something that you need to understand, and it does no good whatsoever to try and speak with you because you do not LISTEN!
LDS Family Services had nothing to do with the adoption.They told you they were backing out of it and they did. Ashley is a smart consumer and shopped around until she found an agency to help her.”“Ashley accepted the consequences of her actions and tried to make the right choices concerning the products of her actions. These 2 people, who don’t really know each other and don’t love each other have no business coparenting a child. Every child deserves to enter this world in a family, with a mom and a dad who love each other, have planned for a child.are able to provide for a child. Did you really want this baby to grow up, with a mom on welfare, a dad making child-siupport payments and maybe getting court supervised visitation once in a while. Constantly in a tug of war between 2 people.”
“Trust me, AShley knows that this is not a game.You seem to have a perception of her that she is the flighty and stupid and callous. You do not know AShley, Cody does not KNOW AShley. You don’t know the maturity and wisdom she has. You do not know the anguish she has gone through to come to the decision she has. Do not feel sorry for her or for our family. We know that she made the right moral decision and you all need to understand that it was completely legal. We all completely support her in every way. We have all spent many hours in prayer over this and know that our prayers were answered. Yes, our Heavenly Father will take care of what needs to be taken care of. We know he is aware of Ashley and Cody, of this baby and of her family.
We also hold no ill will toward Cody or your family. All we ask is that your wants be put aside and this childs needs considered. Biology is not parenting. Did you ever think that God allowed this child to be conceived for this purpose? To allow a family to be created through adoption?
This website Shannon put up is not going to produce any fruit. Ashley is doing what every mother would do and protecting her child(1 Kings 3:16-27)
It seems your family would rather have this baby torn in two.
Cody is on the putative father registry. When this baby is an adult and wants to search for her parents, she can find him there. That is what Ashley feel is in the best interest of this child at this time. If Cody wants more information, you all need to quit threatening her. His legal rights have been terminated,as have Ashley’s.
You all keep asking where the baby is. She is with her family. That is all we know. We know she is being cherished and loved and will be raised wonderfully and grow up to be a beautiful woman, secure in that fact that she has a mother and father that love her and waited and prayed and hoped for her and that she had a birth family that loved her enough to let her be with that mother and father. Ashley has no second thoughts about that decision and no regrets. Does she feel sadness? Of course she does, for herself and also for Cody,but not for this baby. This baby is where she is supposed to be
We hope that you can be part of that family also, but until you accept the fact that this adoption happened and happened legally and quit trying to fight it, that won’t happen.”
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Taken from a letter from Laura Divine (Ashley Olea’s mother) to Cody July 27, 2006
“It’s obvious Ashley was not going to make it easy for you, guess what, she legally didn’t have to. The responsibilty falls completely on YOUR shoulders. She was smart enough to get the legal advice she needed to make the right thing happen.”
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And finally in Ashley’s own writing the reason she did what she did.
“Cody “blocked” the adoption in Wyoming, yes, but there are 49 other states”
“I’m a strong-willed person, and am doing everything in my power to make sure this baby gets the VERY best life possible, on that I cannot give her right now, and one that Cody can’t give her either.”“You’re right,I wasn’t thinking of Cody when I decided this.I wasn’t thinking of myself either.Iwas thinking OF HER,and what would be best FOR HER.Inyour arguments I haven’t heard anything about her needs or her best interests, but what YOU want. I’ve looked at the relationship between Cody & myself and know that no child should ever be subject to what is happening right now.It would be unhealthy and hurtful.It is my right as a mother to do so.Even if you stop this adoption(which you won’t)my relinquishment of rights would be revoked,&I would get custody again. YOU would not automatically get custody.The law recognizes my wants to give this child a better life than the one we can give.”
“Who am I to make these decisions? I am Ashley Olea, I live in Buffalo Wyoming, and I am THE MOTHER OF THIS CHILD.”
“Cody needed to show his parenting plan TO ME. If he was opposed to an adoption, he needed to tell me, as the MOTHER, how he intended to support his child. He didn’t do this, so I proceeded with what would be the best. The only pros of single parenting as opposed to the adoption involved ME. I would get to keep her and raise her, which would be wonderful if I were ready.I wasn’t. The baby will have more opportunities financially. She will have a stay-at-home-mom. She won’t be raised in daycare. She won’t be caught in the middle of two people that don’t like eachother.”
“Well it seems they are proposing I become a single mom on welfare, with no college education, working a minimum wage job for my baby’s daycare, POSSIBLY getting child-support payments. Does Cody have a job? He never told me. Again I did what I thought best with the information given to me.”
“I carried this child, I gave birth, and that gives me the rights to make decisions based on her best interest.”
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This is the email Cody received from Ashley when I asked for a picture of the baby:
From: Ashley
Date: Aug 11, 2006 9:32 PMCody,
A. Why is your mother asking my mother for a picture?
B. Why would I want to give you a picture after I saw Shannon’s website?
However, I do empathize for you and for the fact that I do have pictures and you don’t. I won’t be vindictive about this, and I will send you a picture if you send me a legal, notarized document stating that you will not pursue legal action against the adoption agency. Think very carefully about this, because this is your opportunity to become a part of this childs life. If you will do this, she will always know of you, and her parents will be more than willing to exchange pictures and letters with you through the years, as they are doing with me.
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