Location : Somewhere in MA, USA
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LoL I Iove the baby icons, yes I know it is improper but there should be one giving the finger to the adoption industryand AP's)....sorry, bitter bastard here.... . I should of come on to this site months ago, and I am very glad you put it up-you know how I feel-how much this whole situation makes me furious for all of you-and I just want you to get the baby back and have the peace and closure you deserve. I am very sorry you have been hurt by the sinister adoption industry too. Just keep fighting and I know someday this child will be in your arms where she belongs.... 
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Location : Woodstock, Georgia
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Hey Guys,
Sorry I been away for awhile; but know you are always in thoughts, and prayers Sending you lots of positive energy, and hugs.
Kell
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Location : Rapid City, S.D.
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The O'Dea family would like to say Thank You to whomever made the anonymous donation to the attorney account. What a wonderful thing for you to do! We greatly appreciate it. God Bless You!
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Location : Cleveland, Ohio
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I just wanted to say the same thing happened to me as did to you child. Do not give up the fight, in some great way she will know you are out there looking for her. I found my real father at age 18, that is the Rose last name. The priors are birth, and adoption. I only got 10 years with my real father, and than he passed. I have to say at least I had that, and he saved all of the paper work to show me one day. He even was arrested a few times trying to get me. I had a horrible childhood, and if I could I would wish my bio mother through all she put me through. All along was a loving man that just wanted to be my daddy. Keeep the faith, and do not give up. You would be amazed at what a child knows based on intuition alone. I knew!
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Location : USA, MO
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Cody's situation is very sad in my opinion. Cody stated before the child was born that he wanted to parent the child. He even offered support to Ashley while she was pregnant; some perspective fathers do not do this. They don’t even show interested in their unborn child. The even sadder part is the longer this goes on it will be the little girl who will be hurt. She wouldn’t understand that she is being given to her dad if Cody wins, all he will be is a stranger to her. Torn from the only family and parents she has known her whole life, that can be damaging.
Also surrogacy is not that simple and can be just as complicated as adoption. The laws vary from state to state. Did you know in some states the surrogate can get partial custody of the baby even if she is only the host(i.e. not biological related to the child) because she is the legal mother and birthmother.
What needs to happen is people who adopt need to be more open to taking older kids; kids/babies of different races, siblings groups, etc the majority of people want white healthy infants that is the problem. These kids/babies are out there and deserve a loving home and parents just as much as any healthy white infant/young child.
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Location : Iowa
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i was extremely pressured by the paternal family to give my baby away, and wouldnt do it. I just cant apalogize for not being 'for' adoption. I know in some situations its very very good, the father may not want anything to do with a child, the mother may not want it but obviously wants it to be able to live...and a family is willing to take it..and thats fine.
I just have more of a belief that there wouldnt be so many stories like these if more infertile couples chose other methods besides adoption...like surrogacy. Especially if a woman and her husband want to experience the miracle of pregnancy and birth...most surrogates will allow the 'parents' to be there through all of it.
Thats my only point, i didnt mean to offend.
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Location : Utah
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Someone from SLC posted on Feb 4 that I am not welcome. I am 100% in favor of birthfather's having the same rights as birthmoms. I am not the enemy. My husband and I are unable to bear children. (I assume most of you on this website have no problems with infertility and that is why you make your flippant remarks.) We have adopted two children now.
I am in favor of birthfather rights because I want to adopt children whose parents for one reason or another feel strongly about placing their child with a family...not because one parent is trying to get back at the other.
As for Abby from Iowa...who thinks I shouldn't be able to mother children because I can't get pregnant WOW. You have no clue. Could you imagine life without your kids?? Most girls' only dream in life is to become a mother. How dare you.
My husband had cancer twice starting at age 6. Radiation and Chemo left him infertile. He wanted to be a father more than anything. So, he should have to go through all that trauma and then not to be able to fulfill his dream?
Please be a little more sensitive to us who are trying to do the best we can with what we have got.
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Location : Iowa
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I remember asking myself the same question when i first found out about this, but have come to the conclusion that because of the severity of whats been done to this little girl, she needs to be with her biological family.
Yes, nobody can sit there and say this child will not be traumatized to a degree, her security will be compromised for a while, but she belongs with her father, i really, REALLY do not support adoption at all. If a couple cannot have a child, theres a reason for it. It seems the high percentage of adoptees that are abused in their "great families" would probably agree.
There is however the other area not explored yet, where they slowly hand custody over to cody...so that his daughter has a chance to get used to him and his family before she is sent to live with him, and i wouldnt be surprised if thats the outcome.
Either way, she should have never been put through this in the first place. Nothing appears to be wrong with cody, if the mother didnt want her...it appears that the real problem with this girl (which hasnt been discussed to my knowledge) is that she considers what she did selfless, even though her daughter had a chance to grow up with her real father. Who cares about how much money someone has or if they are married, etc... thats not what makes a family, i dont care what anyone says.
Im a broke, single mother of a 2 year old, and i think it would have been selfish of me to just hand her away to strangers to be rid of the responsibility of having to learn to get along with her father so she could have both of us in her life....(and i REALLY dont get along with him...believe it or not, worse than Cody and Ashley...but we keep it to ourselves, and away from the child...)
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Location : POWELL,WY.
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A sad story indeed but at this point isn't it pretty selfish to try and tear this child from the only family she has ever known? I question the motives of someone trying to do that. Perhaps the lesson to be learned from this is to be sure that the person you are having sex with wants to procreate with you. Condoms are cheap dude! Invest in.a few and save some future heartache.
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Location : Douglas, WY
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good luck Cody...I totally support your fathers rights!
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Thanks for your comment! We feel this is a big problem that other fathers should be aware of.
Your ip says you wrote your comment from Utah yet you put your location as Texas, are you visiting?
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Location : Waco, TX
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I do feel for Cody and his loss. But I have to say it's hard to want to "be on your side" when your only presenting your side of the story. Im sure there is plenty more that is unknown and honestly..shouldn't be posted on websites for all to see. This should be a private family matter, Im stunned that someone would expose this young girls family information like you have. A situation like this happened in my family. It was hard and heart breaking but the courts did not award custody to my nephew because he was loving...but an unfit parent. Perhaps the courts are seeing this in your case as well?
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Location : Farmington, UT
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First, let me express how sorry I am to hear about the abduction of your daughter, to which the Amber Alert fails. However, ironically, a while back, I became pregnant with twins by the son of this same UT adoption law maker "UT Representative Allen." Unwed, I was coerced and scared into giving up my precious son and daughter by the evil baby stealing LDS Social Services aka LDS Family Services. Instead of helping me, as they do divorced single mothers, they stole my children while I was sedated and suffering with postpartum symptoms. My son stayed in Utah, while my daughter was taken into Idaho. Is it just me or do these two states seem to share a stinky connection? I grieve my babes everyday and I continue to suffer from severe depression and suicidal thoughts, I know how it feels and it has no closure!
*Please, I'd like to keep my identity private in case this nut job Allen with her hateful attitude from harassing me. So, I've used a friends email address. Take care!
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Location : Salt Lake City, UT
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Any updates? I think of your family frequently. Is there an appeal going through or anything? My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Location : USA, Utah, Salt Lake City
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If any of you live in Utah, I'd like to start a support group. It's crucial we share and support one another, but also use our pain and determination for change!
If you are interested, please fax over your contact info. and the days and times of availability. Fax no.: (801) 466-4841
-WARNING-
*Adopters, Pro-Adoptionists, Adoption Agencies/Agents and/or Affiliates or Supporters thereof, DO NOT FAX--you are not welcome and you will be screened.
*This Fax does not accept blocked numbers.
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Location : North Carolina
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Yes, these people are kidnappers. They take children illegal. The adoption industry engages in illegal practices and the department of justice condones this. However, it it uncontitutional and the taking of a child against a fit parents will is kidnapping.
My website is tylerandholly.info My children and I are victims of the Florida adoption industry. Please write to dateline@nbcuni.com and ask them to investigate. We need national media attention.
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Location : USA Indiana Crawfordsville
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I need more people to sign my petition! I have gotten several hundred hand petitions but I've just gone up to people and said hey sign this!
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/boycott-utah-petition-untill-cody-bryn-and-josh-get-their-children-back-from-the-states-adoption
I think there needs to be a central petition in addition to the separate one's for each of the parents fighting to undue these maladoptions!
Thanks!
And keep up the good fight!
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Location : Illinois
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I feel so sick to hear yet another story like this. I'm in a similar situation, yet in reverse. My daughter was taken to California by her father and his infertile wife. I have been fighting for almost a year to get her back. There needs to be more laws to regulate adoption. Good luck!!
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Location : california
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Keep up the fight!! These people are KIDNAPPERS nothing less!! I am so sorry. 
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Location : USA, Georgia, Columbus
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God Bless every parent out there! Cody do not give this fight up. We are ALL praying for you!
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Location : Canada
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I just wanted to say how sorry I am that this has happened to you, and how much I support you and encourage what you are doing.
This website is terrific, please keep up the good work and know that I am rooting for you.
This also happened to my brother (who lost his daughter) and the slick LDS machine nearly convinced me to give up my son. Thankfully I did not.
This is an important issue that needs to be brought to light. Thank you so much for what you are doing ... my thoughts will be with you.
I will continue to check up on you and see how things are progressing. I wish you all the best. xoxo
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Location : Missouri
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I'm glad your fighting for paternal rights. My son may be going thru the same thing soon. His ex-girlfriend is expecting and has told him she wants to give the baby up so it can have a better life with a married couple, and that they won't have to go thru big custody issues between Utah and Missouri. She also tells him that he can't raise a baby on his own. We will be behind him 100 % as your family is. Thanks for your page!! I pray that you will have your daughter soon.
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Location : Oldtown
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Good News, Everyone needs to read this article.
http://cdapress.com/articles/2007/12/12/news/news03.txt%23blogcomments
Also for those of you who feel that a crime has been committed against you in Utah in order to deprive you of your child. You may want to go before the Justice panel and ask that a grand jury look into your situation. You only have to December 17 to do so.
http://www.sltrib.com/news/ci_7640431
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Location : Oldtown
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Another must read news article that just came out in the Salt Lake Tribune about the Utah baby selling. Here is the link. http://www.sltrib.com/news/ci_7467542
The media is starting to write about what is going on all accross the country. Please do not stop writing to your elected officials and the Utah Attorney General and US Department of Justice.
Together we can stop this most henious activity.
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Location : Oldtown Idaho
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There are four News articles I would like to bring to every ones attention. The first one is called "Utah Looking to Reform Baby Selling Law" from KSL News in Salt Lake Citty dated November 16,2007. http://www.ksl.com/index.php?nid=148&sid=2160100
The second one is called "Oh, Baby Baby" from the Houston Press dated June 7, 2007.
http://www.houstonpress.com/2007-06-07/news/oh-baby-baby/print
The third is from ABC News and The Associated Press in San Antonio Texas called"FDA Probing Embryo-Production Service"
http://abcnews.go.com/print?id=2791220
The forth is from the Salt Lake Tribune called "International adoption can be risky endeavor with shadowy agencies,heartbreak" dated June 18, 2007.
http://www.sltrib.com/parenting/ci_6166758
All I can say is. For heavens sake please do not stop writning to the Utah Legislature and Utah Attorney Generals Office along with your own representitives. As you can see by the first article. The Utah legislature is finally doing something about the baby selling because of the pressure being placed upon them by concerned people around the world.
In truth we stand.
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Location : Tennessee
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I sit here today watching this little guy I am raising, and I have these times where my heart actually just aches for him. He is surrounded by very much love but yes he will know that his biological daddy is not in the picture. We will hopefully adopt this little one. But one thing I know as I watch him, one day, he will want to know all about his bio dad and possibly see him. Oh my heart longs for the best for this little one, and I know I must prepare him for acceptance and/or possible rejection. But I must be truthful with him in all things, or I rock his very foundation. I will tell him good things about his dad. At first, I didnt want this dad to have any part of this precious child. But what I have come to realize is that God ordained him as the biological father and if this man ever comes to truly want to love this child - it may be after he is grown, who am I to say no and how would i possibly control it? Love finds a way I truly believe. I will stand clean before this child in my dealings, there will be no falsehood, and he will know that my door has been open to his dad. Deception and misguided dealings only hurt the child. They are so precious and tender and their foundation is built much like the Father wants ours to be built and that is on trust. How could this child trust me if they grew to know that I hid him from his real dad? How could he trust that I loved him more than my own selfish desires if he were to find that his dad desperately wanted to love him and know him and I had made sure that didnt happen? As I look at his little face, I see a lot of his dad in him. I love this child so very much and strangely my heart has a place for his bio dad. I feel protective of him because of the situation. Adoption can be a beautiful thing but one thing I do know, this child is not a possession, this is not an ownership thing, its love - and as much as I love this child - which is more than I can even begin to say - I must be willing to share this love should the biological parents be active at a later time in life. I know who the parents are, so I cannot keep it hidden - that would be deception to the child. Had he come from an orphanage that would be different. I cannot express in words my feelings but I try, I love this child so very much that I have come to a point where his happiness and well being WILL override my self centered desire to have another child. Many seem to say that adoption was the best thing for Cody's little girl. Well, if she were from an orphanage yes but there are truths that this little girl will learn and sadly those deceiving and hiding in the name of love - behind the false pretense of wanting whats best for her, are setting her up for potentially great sadness and anger. She will learn the truth. To want a baby so badly that you would see a biological dad desperately trying to father his child and yet keep that child hidden from him? We must be careful whose interests we really serve because when we stand before God, it will be very clear what the motives of our hearts were and things we do in the name of the best interests of a little child, better really be just that - with no hidden motives of our own. I for one dont want to be the stumbling block for this beautiful, precious little boy I am raising. Once again, I will stand clean before this child, with nothing hidden and I will stand clean before God in my dealings with this precious gift He has sent. In my heart, I know that had his mom and dad made a go of it and made it, or had his dad really just been head over heals about him, my love as deep as it is, could not override that and this is as it should be.
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Location : Waukesha, Wisconsin
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Any news yet Melinda? Shannon? I saw you were at OUSA today. Glad to see you there and I read your post. Call me when you can! Also can you send me Kells number? I lost it dad gum it!
Love you all,
Mary
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Hi Mary!
I heard from Kelly just the other day. I really need to get on Origins and check out what i've missed - I've been so busy! I'm thinking about you guys too!!
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Location : Grants Pass,OR
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It just boggles my mind how men get screwed out of any rights when it comes to making decisions about a pregnancy or child until they sign the birth certificate (and even afterwards..... mothers almost always get custody). If a man wants to keep his child and the mother doesnt, he looses. If she wants to keep the child and he doesnt, he looses. She can abort without his consent. Either way, he has to shell out money to hire lawyers or pay child support, even if he never gets to parent his child. Dads have rights too, I wish authorities would recognize that they take just as much part in making the child as the mother. I am the mother of two children, and yes I know, the mother is pregnant and goes through labor and delivery, but without the father I would never have had that opportunity..... Think about it 
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Location : Waukesha, Wisconsin
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I am thinking about you all. Hi Shannon, Melinda. Have you heard from Kell lately?
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