| Oct 23 2009 7:42 AM | Post #142 |
| Oct 20 2009 9:39 AM | Post #141 |
I'm glad to hear this little girl will have a mother and a father, not a set of grandparents to raise her.
You say you want what's best for the little girl--at this point the best thing for her is to remain with the only mother and father she's known.
| Sep 27 2009 21:05 PM | Post #140 |
(He did not even get to meet his son until he was 6 months old and then had to agree to supervised visits until the matter FINALLY got in front of a judge who deemed them unnecessary). The mother blatantly refuses to follow Utah minimum parenting time law sooooo...we are going back to court. I know first hand the stubbornness and seeming cruelty that you can encounter out there and I feel for you! I am curious about any updates and want you to know you and your family will be in our prayers. Also, if you have a recommendation on a father's rights lawyer I would love to hear it!
| Aug 31 2009 6:41 AM | Post #139 |
It's great that you seem to have such a great grasp of the legal system. Newsflash, not everyone does. And as for the mother 'truly wanting to do what is best for her child,' that would have been giving the baby to the father, not to strangers. And finally, yes it may be hard for the child to be taken from it's adoptive family now. But it will be better for the child in the long run.
| Aug 25 2009 21:56 PM | Post #138 |
On another note, it's truly sad to see how Religion forces one to be so blind. Denying a clearly loving Father his parental rights so that the baby can be raised by 2 parents? is that really more important than a biological parent's rights? Shame on all who believe this.
| Aug 24 2009 22:23 PM | Post #137 |
To you - You should have filed with Utah, the day the birthmother called you and told you she was in Utah (or the 20 days following) If it is true that you wanted to parent this child so badly it seems that a petition should have been filed for ANY state you could imagine her in.
To the Birth Mother - I think she truely wanted what was best for her daughter. Sounds like she was troubled - but what teenage mother wouldn't be. Mothers will do ANYTHING to do what they believe is the best for thier children - and I think she did just that. She probably was thinking that this couple would be better parents for the baby that you or her would be.
To LDS Family Services - good for them for not pursuing placement when they heard of your desire to parent.
To the 2nd Agency- How would they know of your intent to parentif the birthmother didn't tell them and there was nothing filed? After the time frame passes they are leagally obligated to support the adoption.
To the Parents - Again, how would they know of your intent to parent? They are now the parents of this little girl. They have loved her and she has loved them for her entire life.
Just ask yourself - although you feel wronged by the system, do you love your daughter enough to let her stay with the only parents she knows? Is that love strong enough not to rip her from her home and her family. No matter who is right or wrong, that is what would happen if you get your way.
| Aug 19 2009 14:28 PM | Post #136 |
| Aug 16 2009 7:18 AM | Post #135 |
my boyfriend fought to get visitation of his daughter when his ex took off with her. He now has shared equal custody.
Keep fighting, no matter how hard you have to. Your little girl will thank you someday.
| Aug 13 2009 16:47 PM | Post #134 |
| Aug 11 2009 21:34 PM | Post #133 |
| Aug 11 2009 18:24 PM | Post #132 |
Good luck, but i find it hard to believe things will get changed after the sorry state of affairs so far.
| Aug 09 2009 23:49 PM | Post #131 |
| Aug 04 2009 10:31 AM | Post #130 |
Do you think the O'Dea family had a problem with the Mormon Church before the little girl was taken away? No....Cody didn't grow up with the notion to take down the Mormon Church. Although, I hope some one does take down the Mormon Church because their beliefs are pretty insane. Hopefully you and your "Family" can get a life.
| Aug 02 2009 12:35 PM | Post #129 |
It is not, "only the other family/people involved," that could have posted the comments. We are two different people that share the same internet. You know, a FAMILY. we both wanted to let the O'Dea family know that just because you have a personal vendetta against the Mormon church does not mean that you should be using a poor innocent child as your scapegoat The O'Dea family should not be looked upon with sympathy, but rather shame. This family is in desperate need of a clue...and Punctuation lessons.
| Aug 02 2009 11:03 AM | Post #128 |
I'm sorry to hear the Utah Supreme Court ruled against you. The way Utah has trampled on the constitutional rights of out-of-state unwed father is nothing short of reprehensible and appalling in light of the Full Faith and Credit Clause and 14th Amendment guarantee of due process. I am especially troubled at how the Utah Legislature and Judiciary have outright condoned fraud by the mother's part during the adoption process. (See Utah Code 78B-6-106). When our own Government - the source of our laws - openly allows deceit and misrepresentation in the adoption process, it breeds contempt for the law and distrust of those that give us the law.
I sincerely hope the U.S. Supreme Court will have the opportunity to review Utah's adoption laws one day and reverse this nonsense. Alternatively, maybe the Utah Legislature will come to its senses and realize that its liberal adoption laws have turned Utah into a "baby selling" mecca and encouraged forum shopping. Until then, we, as Utahns, have blood on our hands as far as I'm concerned.
Even though the father may have lost his rights in an earthly tribunal, the mother (and those complicit in her fraud) will surely one day have to explain to a Higher Tribunal what they have done. I would not want to be in the mothers shoes, telling the Almighty that I sold my own child for money (*wink* *nudge* *cough* I mean "living expense and medical reimbursements during my pregnancy." Riiiiiiight) and, through the use of fraud and forum shopping, prevented the father from ever seeing his only child ever again.
Even worse, I'd hate to be in the shoes of those who have made a business out of assisting people like the mother perpetrate this kind of state-sanctioned fraud come Judgment Day. They will have their reward, and I wouldn't be surprised if it comes from another fellow who has also made a business out of destroying families and promoting fraud ever since he first beguiled our parents in the Garden of Eden long ago...
| Jul 30 2009 19:42 PM | Post #127 |
edit: This entry came from the same ip as the one below. we didn't find out the results until yesterday. only the other family/people involved could have posted these.
| Jul 30 2009 19:14 PM | Post #126 |
| May 11 2009 13:06 PM | Post #125 |
Always Jordan
P.s And what you may know is not SHIT.
So go back to the hole you came up out of. Leave this shit to the big people who know what they are talking about.
And FYI
Cody is a father. To a step son and a 4 month old son. He is a husband. And HE WORKS HIS ASS OFF TO TAKE CARE OF THEM.
Tayna gets to stay at home and take care of her kids. Thats how hard he is working.
| May 08 2009 9:33 AM | Post #124 |
| Apr 01 2009 23:47 PM | Post #123 |
I wish you all the best and hope you win your child back, as you should. What a travesty and a huge breach of human rights!
| Apr 01 2009 22:07 PM | Post #122 |
Adoption is a beautiful blessing for those unable to conceive their own children. Your misuse of the sacred privilege of procreation mocks those who are far more deserving than you.
If you're so concerned for your child, man up and do the right thing. Allow the adoption to proceed and let this baby be raised in a stable, committed, 2-parent home. You're still a child--go to college, get a job, get a life. You are in no way, shape, or form prepared or qualified to parent. Get over yourself.
You make me sick.
| Apr 01 2009 18:38 PM | Post #121 |
Ashley only did what was BEST for this child, and you are obviously not educated enough OR smart enough to realize that.
If you take that child from her parents now, it will only screw HER up.
so,
be a GOOD birth father, and let her stay with her parents. If you really loved her you would leave her alone.
| Feb 12 2009 1:34 AM | Post #120 |
| Sep 06 2008 6:15 AM | Post #119 |
| Sep 04 2008 11:56 AM | Post #118 |
| Aug 16 2008 20:41 PM | Post #117 |
This is my first time coming to your page.
I already know who's the liar and it isn't you. Want to know how I know? Because the person that is the victim ALWAYS starts a web site FIRST because they are deeply upset. Instead of doing something short of murder, they set up a website where they can take their frustrations out in the only way they knew how. YOU were the first one to set up this site which means you are telling the truth. The people that have something to hide, NEVER start a website. All they do is sit on their butts and lie behind closed doors.
Why is it the victims always get accused? Don't listen to those stupid people out there. I am STILL in your shoes!!
You were the first one to start this site because you were truly hurting and loved your child.
As for those haters.. SHUT UP!!
I requested you on myspace my friend. You are loved (even though we just met). Praying for your sons return.
| Aug 15 2008 0:40 AM | Post #116 |
| Jul 11 2008 2:55 AM | Post #115 |
Please provide us with your research and the site(s) in support of your claim that "most" fathers who aren't married to the mother of their child(ren) don't provide support. As well, the same supporting the stats in comparison to those of married and divorced fathers.
Google: Steve Baskerfield's stats on Fathers who are not married to their child(rens) mother.
*Let's dispell the ignorant myth about "most" don't provide financial support, etc. So to be apprised per future reference.
FYI: Did you know---There are married fathers and divorced fathers who would do well if the same stats were true about them.
Learning to be Self Reliant:
Women/Mothers can also provide finacial support. They have the ability to plan ahead and prepare within the 9 months as well. Looking for resources and supports are more easily found via internet access than ever before.
Mothers, regardless of marital status and the fathers financial support, would be wise to take steps in becoming more self reliant if not already. What empowerment and what great role modeling for a child.
Damage--Please Share Your Research:
Could you also share with us and provide your research and reference site(s) of actual cases, regarding "the damage experienced by children who have been returned to their Father/parent(s)/family of Origin"
As well, providing the same regarding children kidnapped v. mainstreaming back to their Father/Parent(s) and their Family of Origin, along with Causations, Results and Prognosis.
Next, please provide us with research on the Primal Wound, Attachment and Reactive Attachment Disorder and Mentalness, along with Causation, Results and Prognosis
Then, plug in Eriksons "Stages of Development" thoughout the life span and Maslow's "Hierarchy of Needs" and provide us with your research which compares and contrasts these theories in human growth and development, with all the above.
As well as, how they relate to all the above in regards to: Causation, Results and Prognosis.
Further, to which supports your research regarding "the damage experienced" in it's relation to what Cody's little girl will personally experience once she is returned to him (her father) and her Paternal Family of Origin.
And, in such terms of the same regarding: Causation, Results and Prognosis.
Thank you
| Jul 11 2008 2:47 AM | Post #114 |
Please provide us with your research and the site(s) in support of your claim that "most" fathers who aren't married to the mother of their child(ren) don't provide support. As well, the same supporting the stats in comparison to those of married and divorced fathers.
Google: Steve Baskerfield's stats on Fathers who are not married to their child(rens) mother.
*Let's dispell the ignorant myth about "most" don't provide financial support, etc. So to be apprised per future reference.
FYI: Did you know---There are married fathers and divorced fathers who would do well if the same stats were true about them.
Learning to be Self Reliant:
Women/Mothers can also provide finacial support. They have the ability to plan ahead and prepare within the 9 months as well. Looking for resources and supports are more easily found via internet access than ever before.
Mothers, regardless of marital status and the fathers financial support, would be wise to take steps in becoming more self reliant if not already. What empowerment and what great role modeling for a child.
Damage--Please Share Your Research:
Could you also share with us and provide your research and reference site(s) of actual cases, regarding "the damage experienced by children who have been returned to their Father/parent(s)/family of Origin"
As well, providing the same regarding children kidnapped v. mainstreaming back to their Father/Parent(s) and their Family of Origin, along with Causations, Results and Prognosis.
Next, please provide us with research on the Primal Wound, Attachment and Reactive Attachment Disorder and Mentalness, along with Causation, Results and Prognosis
Then, plug in Eriksons "Stages of Development" thoughout the life span and Maslow's "Hierarchy of Needs" and provide us with your research which compares and contrasts these theories in human growth and development, with all the above.
As well as, how they relate to all the above in regards to: Causation, Results and Prognosis.
Further, to which supports your research regarding "the damage experienced" in it's relation to what Cody's little girl will personally experience once she is returned to him (her father) and her Paternal Family of Origin.
And, in such terms of the same regarding: Causation, Results and Prognosis.
Thank you
| Jul 11 2008 0:01 AM | Post #113 |
