| Yesterday 15:03 PM | Post #166 |
| Jul 28 2010 17:31 PM | Post #165 |
| Jul 27 2010 5:49 AM | Post #164 |
That is What She Has Done.
| Jul 24 2010 20:04 PM | Post #163 |
| Jul 03 2010 15:52 PM | Post #162 |
| Jun 30 2010 15:54 PM | Post #161 |
The O'Dea family is in my thoughts and prayers.
| May 09 2010 15:24 PM | Post #160 |
grandchild on her death bed. May God have mercy on the adopted parents souls for
being so cruel. The child has been denied true LOVE by those who took this
child from the earthly Father God gave her to. I find it interesting that the Bible teaches us this about LOVE. Maybe someday this little girl of Cody's will know his LOVE and that of his families. I pray so. I know one thing
for sure. The adoptive parents, lawyers, judges, Ashley and her family, LDS Family Services and all those who kept this child from Cody and his family will get to stand before the Lord and explain why they denied Cody and his
families LOVE to this child. Why they took the child away God gave Cody. Always remember this Cody. Love rejoices with the truth!
1 Corinthians 13 NIV
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love,
I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of
prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith
that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I
possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not
love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it
is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily
angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but
rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease;
where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it
will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when
perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a
child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man,
I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a
mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know
fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of
these is love.
| Apr 25 2010 18:40 PM | Post #159 |
| Apr 14 2010 23:22 PM | Post #158 |
yes, the case is tragic but I am not convinced by reading the story that either the UT agency or the adoptive parents knew about Cody until after the fact. By then they are already committed legally and emotionally.
Doesn't help Cody but the only known "bad guy" in this was the bio mother who lied. After being turned down by LDS in WY she probably learned what to say and not to say to the "new" agency.
Now the child is stuck in the middle. She is old enough now to be severally damaged if moved.
Can't they work out an open adoption agreement the way parents that split up do. After all if bio mom had kept baby, they would have had to share custody.
Not ideal but maybe in the best interest of the child who is most important
| Apr 14 2010 21:34 PM | Post #157 |
| Apr 13 2010 13:53 PM | Post #156 |
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/04/13/AR2010041302445.html
| Mar 26 2010 10:55 AM | Post #155 |
| Mar 15 2010 16:34 PM | Post #154 |
Keep your head up, you're not alone! I too am going through the same thing. I have a son whom I have not yet seen. He was born March 3rd, 2009 and my ex has denied me the right to see my son and I have been fighting ever since. She also had her boyfriend at the time of my son's birth put his name on the birth certificate, making it even harder for me. This guy that she is with has been married 3 previous times, he left his pregnant wife to run off with my ex and has abandoned 6 of his own children, and she has abandoned 2 of her own. And yet they are playing "house" with my innocent son.
It has taken me a year just to get the courts to get her to take the paternity test (which there was no questioning who the father was), she just knows how to manipulate the system to the mother's favor. Come to find out after she had left me, she has been diagnosed bi-polar and multiple personality disorder. And yet, it's been impossible to have someone stand up in my name and do what is right.
I know your hurt fully, there isn't a day that goes by I don't think about it and get upset with the legal system that puts women in favor. There are so many dead beat fathers out there that have ruined for the rest of us that fight everyday to protect our children. I would donate everything I had this day to help you in your cause, but as you can see, I'm fighting the same battle. I've already paid a lawyer to take charge of this, but it's been a waste of hard earned money. I'm currently seeking a new lawyer and have to somehow come up with the money to pay that one. It seems that honor and integrity don't live in the hearts of many anymore.
My friend, you have those attributes and I commend you for that. It's comforting to know that there is someone out there like myself who will stand up against evil and fight for what he knows to be true and truly shows unconditional love, not the facade that is portrayed daily by many others.
You and your child will be in my prayers. Stay strong, and know that you're not alone in this. I'm here, and I'll help anyway I can.
| Mar 09 2010 12:31 PM | Post #153 |
Cody's Mom lost her battle to Melanoma Cancer in December 2009. On her deathbed, we wrote Ashley (Biological Mother) and the attorney representing the Adoption Center of Choice (he forwarded the letter to the Adoptive Parents) and begged for a picture of Cody's Daughter. That never happened. Melinda died without the chance to hold her Granddaughter or even seen a picture. She died without even knowing her name. Ashley didn't even have the decency to email us back. The Adoptive Parents replied to our email by saying they didn't trust us and that "THEIR" daughter was healthy and happy. Nice little jab they ended with....Our hearts are broken after losing Melinda but we will never give up on baby O'Dea. One day she will find us and one day she will know the truth. Her Daddy did EVERYTHING in his power to fight for her. Unfortunately the laws in Utah are too corrupt.
| Dec 25 2009 9:04 AM | Post #152 |
| Dec 07 2009 10:39 AM | Post #151 |
BUT, we did listen to the whole show on the phone and encourage EVERYONE to watch the show. There is going to be a similar story to Cody's. Larry S. Jenkins will also be on the show. (He is the lawyer we have been fighting against!) SO...PLEASE WATCH IT!!! We are still praying for a miracle!!! Thanks for all the support!!!
| Nov 20 2009 15:43 PM | Post #150 |
From what you are saying it sounds to me like you would be opposed to a child being returned to her family after she is discovered to have been kidnapped.
I mean, from a small age she has known only her kidnappers right?...yet they ALWAYS get returned to their family because the dont belong with KIDNAPPERS! No one ever says, "hmmm, well ya know, she has been with those nasty kidnappers her whole life...so ya, lets just not return her to her family and go ahead and let the kidnappers raise her!"
She belongs with Cody!
Cody is her FATHER. I think it is absolutley absurd that people support the fact that he should remain out of her life.
If your baby was taken away from you...wouldnt you fight to get her back?
| Nov 17 2009 15:18 PM | Post #148 |
| Nov 16 2009 14:58 PM | Post #147 |
| Nov 13 2009 13:41 PM | Post #145 |
I'm so sorry to hear of all of this going on. This is the first I've heard of all this. It is appalling to me the rude, ugly things people can post. I was once in a newspaper article about Juvenile Justice and was appalled about the comments people would post, just as I am appalled at some of the posts written on your site. I am also a bit confused about the 20 day limit. Is that solely for Utah? Because here in Wyoming, I was told by Child Support, that even after 5 years of trying to establish paternity for Crisjian, that my son would not ever be able to be adopted by a potential father, without having established paternity. Good luck to you both and please let me know if there is anything I can do to help! You too are great parents, and I can say that knowing you, unlike some of the ugly postings on here!
| Nov 13 2009 12:50 PM | Post #144 |
| Nov 12 2009 11:12 AM | Post #143 |
You adopted a child. That's great. This little girl was stolen away from her father by lies and tricks. Don't project your life on this situation.
| Oct 23 2009 7:42 AM | Post #142 |
| Oct 20 2009 9:39 AM | Post #141 |
I'm glad to hear this little girl will have a mother and a father, not a set of grandparents to raise her.
You say you want what's best for the little girl--at this point the best thing for her is to remain with the only mother and father she's known.
| Sep 27 2009 21:05 PM | Post #140 |
(He did not even get to meet his son until he was 6 months old and then had to agree to supervised visits until the matter FINALLY got in front of a judge who deemed them unnecessary). The mother blatantly refuses to follow Utah minimum parenting time law sooooo...we are going back to court. I know first hand the stubbornness and seeming cruelty that you can encounter out there and I feel for you! I am curious about any updates and want you to know you and your family will be in our prayers. Also, if you have a recommendation on a father's rights lawyer I would love to hear it!
| Aug 31 2009 6:41 AM | Post #139 |
It's great that you seem to have such a great grasp of the legal system. Newsflash, not everyone does. And as for the mother 'truly wanting to do what is best for her child,' that would have been giving the baby to the father, not to strangers. And finally, yes it may be hard for the child to be taken from it's adoptive family now. But it will be better for the child in the long run.
| Aug 25 2009 21:56 PM | Post #138 |
On another note, it's truly sad to see how Religion forces one to be so blind. Denying a clearly loving Father his parental rights so that the baby can be raised by 2 parents? is that really more important than a biological parent's rights? Shame on all who believe this.
| Aug 24 2009 22:23 PM | Post #137 |
To you - You should have filed with Utah, the day the birthmother called you and told you she was in Utah (or the 20 days following) If it is true that you wanted to parent this child so badly it seems that a petition should have been filed for ANY state you could imagine her in.
To the Birth Mother - I think she truely wanted what was best for her daughter. Sounds like she was troubled - but what teenage mother wouldn't be. Mothers will do ANYTHING to do what they believe is the best for thier children - and I think she did just that. She probably was thinking that this couple would be better parents for the baby that you or her would be.
To LDS Family Services - good for them for not pursuing placement when they heard of your desire to parent.
To the 2nd Agency- How would they know of your intent to parentif the birthmother didn't tell them and there was nothing filed? After the time frame passes they are leagally obligated to support the adoption.
To the Parents - Again, how would they know of your intent to parent? They are now the parents of this little girl. They have loved her and she has loved them for her entire life.
Just ask yourself - although you feel wronged by the system, do you love your daughter enough to let her stay with the only parents she knows? Is that love strong enough not to rip her from her home and her family. No matter who is right or wrong, that is what would happen if you get your way.
| Aug 19 2009 14:28 PM | Post #136 |
| Aug 16 2009 7:18 AM | Post #135 |
my boyfriend fought to get visitation of his daughter when his ex took off with her. He now has shared equal custody.
Keep fighting, no matter how hard you have to. Your little girl will thank you someday.
